MommaMae's word for the day...

Live every day to the fullest, laugh as much as you possibly can, and love yourself like your life depends on it.

After reading the preface, my first reaction was,

"She needs to leave him.  She doesn't have to put up with that.  It ain't worth the stress," but after I read the article...the author actually makes some very good points that I find hard to counter because his logic does make sense.  

From the author:

Let’s call her Tara. Tara emailed me in response to an article I wrote.  Her man broke her trust (she didn’t go into details). She’s upset because he’s trying to make her hurry up and ‘get over it’. She also suspects he will get tired of the uphill climb out the doghouse and will just move on to the next one. She is trying to figure out whether to stay and work through it, or do a preemptive strike and leave.

Before you are quick to say ‘LEAVE HIM!!!’, read the article.

http://bmwk.me/1jsboM6

Pampering myself with my favorite hair mask :)

I have naturally curly, frizzy hair, BUT I recently discovered this AWESOME hair mask that tames my mane.

Here's the basic recipe (I modified it slightly because my scalp is very sensitive to apple cider vinegar.  If you have a sensitive scalp, dilute the apple cider vinegar 1:1 with distilled water)

I'm going to give the basic recipe, but you can make as much as you need. (I triple the recipe because I have dry, thick, curly hair)

2 Tablespoons castor oil
1 teaspoon glycerin
1 teaspoon apple cider vinegar (I use the unfiltered kind with the 'mother' in it.  If you have a sensitive scalp or have been scratching your scalp, I highly recommend using 1/2 a teaspoon ACV and 1/2 a teaspoon distilled water)
1 large egg

I put all of my ingredients in a mason jar and use an immersion blender, but the first time I made it, I used a glass bowl and a whisk.

Mix everything thoroughly.  The mixture will be VERY runny (It totally looks like pale yellow milk LOL).  

I HIGHLY recommend using a long-tip squeeze bottle to apply.  Like the condiment bottles you buy for ketchup and mustard.

Apply the mixture to DRY hair root to tip.  Massage in thoroughly and cover with a self-heating conditioning cap. 

Fair warning:  your hair will feel like it is glued together but trust me when I say it's gonna be worth it.   Keep hair covered for 2 hours.  Do not rinse out.  Just wet your hair and wash with shampoo and condition like you would normally do.  Then, style as you wish.

I honestly can't recommend sitting under the hair dryer because I haven't tried it and I'm not sure it would be the best thing because of the amount of oil in the treatment. I've done it using only a plastic cap and body heat.  It's more time consuming, but I have been very, very pleased with the results thus far.

You will thank me.

True words by the late, great George Carlin

No person can do more for you than you can do for yourself...

MommaMae's word for the day...

Your thoughts affect your feelings and your feelings affect your actions and choices.  If you have a negative mind, you cannot have a positive life.

MommaMae's word for the day:...

If you're not interested romantically in someone who likes you "that way", it is wrong to encourage them in that direction.  Don't be selfish; be honest.  If you only want to be friends, then you need to keep things strictly friendly.  How you treat people and react to the way you are treated is your karma.  

MommaMae's word for the day (inspired by a meme)...

One way to reduce drama in your life? If you have a problem with someone, talk to him/her about it; not everyone else.

MommaMae's word for the day (inspired by a meme)...

Words cannot be unspoken.  So, be sure to taste your words before you spit them out.

This is actually a VERY good article. Short, sweet and on point.

10 Ways to Improve Your Marriage While You're Still Single

http://photos.essence.com/galleries/modern-day-matchmaker-10-ways-improve-your-marriage-while-youre-still-single/?slide=289921

MommaMae's word for the day...

Don't compare your beginning to someone else's middle. We each have to run our own race at our own pace. We start where we are and we finish when we do.

Huge shout out to my son, Terran, for graduating tech school and is now officially in the USAF

Almost 23 years old, no kids, succeeding in life and (get ready for the shocker), raised by a single mother.  I am one proud momma!

MommaMae's word for the day:

MommaMae's word for the day...

Happiness is an inside job and the keys to your happiness belong in your pocket.  

MommaMae's word for the day...

I see so much about people having drama on Facebook and I hear people talking about having drama in their lives. There are only 2 reasons for drama in your life: you are creating it or you're allowing it.  It's just that simple.  The biggest troublemaker in your life is the person who stares back in the mirror: Y.O.U.  You can't complain about what you create or what you allow.  You have options and choices and where you are is where you want to be because if it wasn't, you wouldn't be there.  

MommaMae's word for the day:...

A true test of a person's character is how they treat those who can do nothing for them.

Love it!

"A word to the wise ain't necessary. It's the stupid ones who need advice." ~Bill Cosby~ 

My 100th post! and it's a GOOD 'un

MommaMae's word for the day...

When you forgive someone, that doesn't excuse their behavior nor does it mean you have to tolerate their maltreatment of you.  Forgiveness is for YOU and YOUR peace of mind.  It means you're able to move past it, but it doesn't mean you have to put aside common sense.  Forgive those who wrong you, but don't forget the lesson you learned.

MommaMae's word for the day...

Words are just words.  They are merely sounds and air and they only have the power you allow them to have.  Negative words are no different and are only powerful when you give them power.  You have the power to destroy words that are meant to hurt you.  Negative words can only turn into actions when you act on the words that were said about you.  Like Madea's character said in the movie, Madea's Family Reunion, "It's not what people call you honey; it's what you answer to."  Are you allowing others to control your life with their negative words, thoughts, and actions? If so, it's time to do some Spring cleaning.

MommaMae's word for the day...

Stop worrying about what you can't do and start thinking about and focusing on what you can do.  Turn those negatives into positives and stop fixating on failure.  Why not prepare for the best instead?

MommaMae's word for the day (via Genevieve Behrend)...

"A feeling that greater possessions, no matter of what kind they may be, will of themselves bring contentment or happiness, is a misunderstanding.  No person, place, or thing can give you happiness.  They may give you cause for happiness and a feeling of contentment, but the joy of living comes from within."

MommaMae's word for the day,,,

Romantic love defined..

Mommamae's word for the day...

Sometimes, we don't get the answer we want, but that doesn't make the answer wrong just because it isn't what we wanted.  Sometimes, the answer is what it is and the facts are what they are and you have to put on your big people undies, accept what is and move on.

Dr. Scholl's Active Series inserts review

For those that don't know this about me, I'm a freebies fanatic and I love testing out new products.  I received a VoxBox from Influenster.com to try out the new Dr. Scholl's Active series inserts.  They seem like a good product honestly.  They're lightweight, have great cushioning and appear to be durable.  I unfortunately wasn't able to actually use them in my shoes because they're too thick and made my shoes too tight to wear.

MommaMae's word for the day...

How a person makes you feel is most often the best gauge of how s/he feels about you.

MommaMae's word for the day...

Sometimes, the smallest act of kindness can affect a person more than you know.  Every person you meet is fighting their own battles and kindness is not ever wasted.  Make three people smile today for no other reason than simply to do it.

Best story I've come across in quite some time. I had to share this!

http://www.yourblackworld.net/2013/09/black-news/businessman-rents-anti-saggy-pants-billboard-show-your-mind-not-your-behind/

12 SUGGESTIONS ON HOW TO ACHIEVE HAPPINESS EACH DAY

1.  Set aside time each day for prayer and meditation

2.  Try to get at least 6-7 hours of uninterrupted sleep each night

3.  Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar

4.  Try to make at least 3 people smile each day

5.  Don't waste your precious energy on gossip

6.  Avoid negative people, places, and thoughts

7.  Spend time with people over 70 and under 6

8.  Don't worry about the small stuff and the things you can't control

9.  Don't take yourself too seriously because no one else does ;)

10. Agree to disagree; you don't have to win every argument

11. Make peace with your past so it doesn't spoil your present

12. Most of all, treat others the way you want to be treated

MommaMae's word for the day...

Joy is the best measure of success.

MommaMae's word for the day...(Inspired by a Facebook meme)

As the old folks used to say, "A dog who'll bring a bone will carry it."  In other words, a person who gossips to you will gossip about you.  Listen carefully to how a person speaks to you about other people because this is how he or she will speak about you to others.