Tuesday, May 6, 2014

The person in the mirror....

Michael Baisden Commentary: Stop Blaming The Opposite Sex: Maybe the problem is YOU!
Like many of you I have good reason to be disappointed with the opposite sex. I’ve dealt with liars, deceivers, and materialist. And even when you’re upfront about what you want, we all know people will lie to themselves in order to be with you.

Then there are the people I refer to as “The Irresponsibles.” They mess up time and time again and refuse to adapt, grow up, or take responsibility for their actions. It’s always someone else’s fault…not theirs.

And then you have The Fix a Dude or Fix a Chic! They have a ton of potential but lack the discipline, work ethic, or courage to get to the next level. We’ve all played the role of Mother Teresa trying to clean someone up, invest money, and in some cases moved them into our homes thinking that our overwhelming love will magically transform them into the perfect half of a “Super Couple!” And as we all know, that doesn’t work…right?

As you mature you realize that what you’ve been attracting into your life all these years was…you. The irresponsible people you date represent that part of you that doesn’t want to take responsibility for making better choices. Think about it, why would a responsible person chose a person who is irresponsible unless they were subconsciously trying to avoid setting standards and standing by them. By definition a responsible person would never choose an irresponsible one. It’s like oil and water.
Likewise when you date the Fix a Dude or Fix a Chic, it’s really you who is broken… and it’s you who needs to stop trippin’ on this ridiculous notion that dealing with broken people is a sign of good character…well, it isn’t. More than likely it’s a sign of insecurity.

People who have low self-esteem always surround themselves with people who will be overly impressed with them to cover up some their own inadequacies. Or let’s go even deeper; maybe you feel that by fixing them they will feel obligated to stay. But the reality is that 9 times out of 10 once the “Fix a Dude” or “Fix a Chic” are back on their feet they’ll be gone faster than the last cold beer at a July Barbecue!

Make 2014 the year of growth and maturity, and that starts by not blaming others for your situation. No matter how much you complain about being lied to, cheated on, or abused, there’s one common denominator… it always happens to YOU! So YOU are both the problem and the solution. Start focusing on the man in the mirror because what you see is a reflection of how much…or little work you put into yourself! ~ Michael Baisden

Monday, March 24, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day:

Your reputation is who people think you are.  Your character is who you are when no one's watching.  If what you're doing in the dark can't be done in the light, then you're living a lie.  If you want true peace in your life, let your reputation BE your character.

Wednesday, March 5, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day:

Just because you can doesn't mean you should.  Don't mistake temptation for opportunity.

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day:

Stop complaining about your harvest because you  reap what you sow.  Want a different crop?  Plant different seeds.

Friday, February 28, 2014

Saturday, February 15, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day:

Every day starts as a blank slate.  Fresh, new and full of possibilities.  We write our story each day through our actions, our choices, our words.  You can't change what happened yesterday, but you can decide what you will make of today.  As Dr. Seuss said, “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go...”

Thursday, February 13, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day..

Self-talk affects our lives in so many ways.  We become what we think about the most and negative self-talk is a burden to our lives.  If you had a friend who talked to you the way you talk to yourself, how long would you allow that person to continue to be your friend?  Change your mind and you will change your life.

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day...

If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?

Saturday, February 8, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day:

Your attendance is not required to every argument you're invited to. Choose your battles carefully.

Friday, February 7, 2014

Positive affirmation for today...

I am so very, very grateful

MommaMae's word for the day:

Don't let what you want make you forget what you are already blessed with.  Humility and gratitude will take you so very far in life.

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day...

No isn't a dirty word.  You can use it and still be a nice person.  Don't allow others to overwhelm your life because you're afraid to say, "No." 

Positive affirmation for today

I am...
I can...
I will...
I deserve...

Sunday, February 2, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day...

Many of you have probably heard the expression, "The more you complain, the longer God lets you live."  What they don't tell you is the more you complain, the more you'll draw things into your life to complain about.  The reverse is also true.  The more things you find to be happy about, the more of those you will attract to your life as well.  I don't know about you, but I choose to be happy.  Change your mind and you'll change your life.

Positive affirmation for today

I choose to be happy.

Friday, January 31, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day (inspired by Daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne):

No matter what occurs in your life, there is never just one way.  In every circumstance and moment of your life, there are two paths available to you.  The two paths are: the positive and the negative.  YOU are the one who chooses the path you will take. 

Thursday, January 30, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day...

What you think about, you bring about because thoughts become things.  Your thoughts affect your feelings and your feelings affect your actions.  If you want to change your life, change your mind.

Today's affirmation

I choose to be happy.

Tuesday, January 28, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day...

You are no more and no less than you believe yourself to be.  The world takes you at your own estimate of your self worth. Don't put yourself in the bargain basement.

I created a Facebook group for the blog

It would sure be great to have you all join us there :)


Sunday, January 26, 2014

Momma's word for the day:

It takes a special kind of person to treat people wrong and then wonder why things aren't going right for them.  As my daddy used to say, "What you put out of your house will be what comes back to it. You reap what you sow."  If you plant acorns, it'd be pretty foolish to think you're going to get an apple tree.  If it seems like things are always going wrong in your life, it's time to do soul searching with the person in your mirror.

Sunday, January 19, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day...

Don't judge a book by its cover.  No matter how it good it may look, even the most beautifully decorated box of cow manure is still just a pile of crap. ~MommaMae~

Thursday, January 16, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day...

If you're not happy with what you have, you sure won't be happy with what you want.  An attitude of gratitude multiplies your blessings.

Monday, January 13, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day:

Your race isn't who you are. Your skin is just a covering.  While you should be proud of your heritage, it is the soul of your character that should be what defines you, NOT the color of your skin. ~MommaMae~

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Sunday, January 5, 2014

UBUNTU...I am because we are...

An anthropologist proposed a game to the kids in an African tribe. He put a basket full of fruit near a tree and told the kids that who ever got there first won the sweet fruits. When he told them to run they all took each others hands and ran together, then sat together enjoying their treats. When he asked them why they had run like that as one could have had all the fruits for himself they said: ''UBUNTU, how can one of us be happy if all the other ones are sad?''
'UBUNTU' in the Xhosa culture means: "I am because we are"

Saturday, January 4, 2014

MommaMae's word for the day (inspired by Howard Britt's status):

Every butterfly was once a caterpillar. Every chicken was once an egg. Every adult was once a child. Every child was once a seed. Every seed was once a moment.  You have NO IDEA which moment will be the moment that defines your future. So, you should never frown upon THIS moment in your life. Whether it is a dry season, a lonely season, a rough season, or a season of pain. Be the best you in as many moments as you can and everything will fall into place.

I'm actually doing ok in managing my money, but I want to do better as I am sure many of you do as well...

With the start of the new year, we all make plans and resolutions as to what we want to accomplish for the year. I found a great free e-book called, "It's Not About the Money." Just a little contribution to help with those resolutions. Let's make 'em happen!